Picture this: Sarah is lying in bed, and after just 5 minutes she’s trembling with excitement as if someone switched all her body’s sensors to maximum. What happened? What did her partner do differently this time?
Why Your Foreplay Isn’t Working
Most men think foreplay is just a “mandatory program” before the main event. You rush through it quickly so you can get to the real thing. But this is the biggest mistake you can make.
A woman’s body needs at least 20 minutes to become fully ready for pleasure. But there’s a trick that can cut this time down to 5-8 minutes – while cranking the intensity up to maximum.
The Secret: The Start-Stop Technique
“I thought my partner had gone mad,” Emma shared. “He started with gentle caresses on my arm, then suddenly stopped. Started again on my neck, stopped again. After five minutes I felt like electricity was running through me. I never thought simple touching could get me so worked up.”
What to do exactly:
1. Start far from the target Don’t rush straight to her breasts or inner thighs. Caress her arms, neck, outer thighs. Let the anticipation build in her mind.
2. Apply the start-stop technique When you start getting closer to the sensitive areas – stop. Yes, exactly when it’s getting good. Go somewhere else, caress a different part. This drives her brain crazy – in the best way.
3. Watch for the signs When she starts breathing faster, when she’s about to moan – that’s exactly when you change direction. Don’t give her what she’s craving. Not yet.
Why This Works So Brutally Well
A woman’s brain is the biggest sexual organ. When you constantly change the stimulation, her brain can’t “get used to” the sensation. Instead, it becomes more and more sensitive, and each new touch becomes more intense than the last.
“My partner figured something out,” Aoife shared. “Before, he always did the same thing: caressing, kissing, then straight to the goal. Now he plays with me. He picks up a bullet vibrator, puts it there for a moment, then takes it away. It’s maddening – but in the best way.”
Practical Guide for Tonight
Step 1: Temperature Play Take some ice or warm massage oil. Drop it on her neck, spread it around, then move elsewhere. Wait 30 seconds, then return.
Step 2: Using Tools A soft stimulator can work wonders. But the key: don’t use it continuously. Put it on for 10 seconds, take it off, wait, put it somewhere else.
Step 3: Master the Timing When you see she’s getting close to climax – stop. Yes, I know, it’s cruel. But wait 30 seconds, then start again more gently.
What Women Say About This
“At first I didn’t understand what he was doing,” Claire tells us. “I thought he’d lost track. But then I realised: this is intentional. And when he finally ‘let me go’, it was so intense I was shaking for minutes afterwards.”
G-spot stimulators and high-tech vibrators are great for this technique – but remember: it’s not about speed, it’s about making her wait.
What to Expect from the Results
- More intense orgasm for her
- Longer pleasure for both of you
- Better connection in bed
- She’ll be asking you for more
The Most Important Rule
Don’t rush anywhere. The goal is for her to be so worked up after 5-8 minutes that when you finally “allow” her everything, the climax will be many times more intense.
Try it tonight: start slow, pause at every good moment, and let the tension build. She might just say: “I thought I’d go crazy – but that was fantastic.”
Remember: every woman is different. Watch her reactions and adapt to what works for her.
