Pegging sex is an exciting role reversal in the bedroom that can spice up your sexual life. It’s a particularly intimate adventure that improves communication between couples and can result in incredibly intense orgasms for men. Get ready for a bit of experimentation!
What the Hell is Pegging?
Pegging isn’t as widespread yet, but its popularity is continuously growing, just like other sexual acts such as face-sitting and spanking. Despite this, there’s still little information available about this activity, which leads to many misconceptions.
No, pegging isn’t just for gay men, and it doesn’t have to be painful if you do it right. Moreover, it’s not used to “gain more power” in the relationship. In reality, it’s a fun way to spice up your sexual life.
What does it mean exactly? Pegging is a sexual act where a woman uses a strap-on dildo or vibrator to have anal sex with her male partner. This role reversal is attractive not just because of the physical pleasure, but also because it gives couples the opportunity to try new roles in sex – and this time, the man is in the receiving position.
Historical Aside (Because Knowledge is Sexy)
The term pegging wasn’t born yesterday, although it has only become widely known in recent years. When this term was introduced in 2001 in the “Savage Love” sex advice column, it was defined as a cisgender woman anally penetrating a cisgender male partner.
Since then, however, it has received a much more inclusive definition – as long as anal penetration and a strap-on are involved, it counts as pegging.
How to Try Pegging: 8 Golden Rules
1. Talk to Your Partner and Get Consent
This is essential! As with other sexual acts, the first thing is communication. Don’t bring up the topic like a surprise birthday party – “Right love, we’re pegging today!” Discuss it beforehand, give time to think, and never force anything.
2. Prepare the Gear
After your partner has agreed (and hopefully didn’t look at you like someone who just saw a UFO), it’s time to go shopping. You’ll need good quality water-based lubricant – and don’t skimp on it this time! You’ll also need a strap-on kit. For beginners, choose a smaller-sized dildo that’s ideal for starters.
3. Go Slowly – This Isn’t a Race
As with other sexual acts, it’s important to take small steps here too. If the receiving party is new to pegging, forcing a 10-inch dildo can lead to a painful experience.
Start with fingering, then progress to anal toys and butt plugs. It’s like warming up before exercise – nobody jumps straight into weightlifting.
4. Gentleness is Key
Don’t rush! When ready for the strap-on dildo, start by just placing the tip of the dildo and moving slowly. Gradually increase the intensity.
5. Communicate Throughout
Keep talking! Ask questions, regularly check how your partner is feeling. This isn’t an exam situation, but a shared adventure.
6. Try Different Positions
The receiving party doesn’t always have to be on all fours. Experiment with different positions – you might find one that’s brilliant for both of you.
7. Sex Toys = Extra Fun
Butt plugs, anal beads, vibrators – there are loads of possibilities. The giving party can also use sex toys on themselves during – for example, an app-controlled vibrator that the partner can control.
8. Aftercare – Don’t Forget It!
Aftercare is very important. A bit of cuddling, kind words, a warm shower, or even ordering a takeaway – whatever you like, but give each other a bit of extra attention.
Strap-On Penises: The Art of Choice
During pegging, the strap-on penis is the star – choose wisely! Smaller sizes are recommended for beginners. Adult shops offer different materials and shapes, some with vibration functions if you’re looking for extra excitement.
Pro tip: Silicone dildos are the safest and easiest to clean.
Pegging Positions for Beginners
Classic Doggy Style
The reliable classic that’s good for every occasion. It provides full access and doesn’t require acrobatic skills. The receiving party is on all fours, slightly raising their bottom, while the giver kneels behind.
Missionary Position
Here you have the chance to look into each other’s eyes – romantic and practical at the same time. The receiving party lies on their back, placing their legs on the giver’s shoulders. Perfect for intimacy and full control.
“Feast On Me” (The Banquet)
A bit of kitchen adventure! The receiving party climbs onto the table in a kneeling position, while the giver stands behind them. Creative and varied – just make sure the table is stable!
Interesting Facts About Pegging
Did you know…?
- Prostate stimulation can cause extremely intense orgasms in men – it’s not called the “male G-spot” for nothing
- Pegging increases oxytocin levels in both partners, which deepens emotional bonding
- A 2019 survey showed that 15% of couples have tried it in some form
- The market for toys used in pegging grows by 12% annually – clearly more and more people are open to new experiences
Common Questions (and Honest Answers)
Is pegging painful? If you do it right, not at all! As with all anal play, preparation and patience are key. Plenty of lube, slow pace, and it becomes enjoyable.
Is pegging safe? Yes, if you follow the basic rules: hygiene, quality equipment, and patience.
How do I talk to my partner about this? In a calm environment, honestly. “I’d be interested in a bit of role reversal in sex” – simple and clear.
Is this a gay thing? No! Anal pleasure doesn’t determine sexual orientation.
Real Experience Stories
Liam (32): “I was sceptical at first, but my partner was patient. The first time was a bit odd, but by the second time I completely let myself go. Now it’s a regular part of our sex life, and I can say I’ve never had such intense orgasms.”
Aoife (28): “I love the controlling role, and it’s a special experience seeing how much my partner enjoys it. Our communication has also improved because we constantly talk about what we like. This has taken our relationship to a completely new level.”
Seán (35): “I’ll admit, I initially struggled with my fears, but my girlfriend was very understanding. It turned out this is a fantastic feeling and has nothing to do with sexual orientation. It simply feels good and brought us closer together.”
Conclusion
Pegging is an exciting and fun way to explore your sexuality and find new sources of pleasure. The communication opportunities it opens up, the new sensations, and the increased trust all contribute to developing a deeper connection between you.
Don’t forget: pegging – like all sexual acts – is about mutual consent and mutual respect. It’s not a competition, not a performance test, but a shared adventure. Enjoy the journey and don’t be afraid to try something new!
And if all you need is the perfect strap-on dildo for experimenting, you can always count on your local adult shop! Discretion comes first with us.
